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When your boyfriend ends your relationship suddenly, it can be devastating. Often, deep down, you know that something in your relationship isn’t right and you might have seen the breakup coming. Regardless, it’s never easy. Especially if you’ve been with that person for a very long time. If the relationship was short, maybe a few months, it might be easier to drown your sorrows in a movie or a night out with your friends, but if the relationship was longer, it will take you longer to recover. It’s just the way our minds work and you shouldn’t be frustrated or feel alone if your struggling with moving on. But, there are things you can focus on to get over your boyfriend and move on with other relationships.
When you’re thinking about your ex boyfriend, find a place in your home and take a look around. Pick a spot that has a lot of memories of him. Take a hard look around and see what physical evidence exists of him in the room. Now, take the time to remove anything that belonged to him or that will remind you of your lives together. This won’t be easy to do. Of course, if you purchased an animal together, you can’t get rid of the animal – and wouldn’t want to. However, pictures of you together or presents that he purchased for you for birthdays or anniversaries will need to go, at least for awhile.
In some cases you might think that if you purge your home of everything that reminds you of him you’ll probably be left with an empty house. But you don’t need to go that far. Pick the items that leave you with strong emotions and remove them from the room. If you have the strength, donate the items or throw them out. It’s time to be strong and make strong moves that you can build on. Choose carefully, but choose.
This process is good for your soul and is a way to take control of the situation. You are making these choices to keep what you want and throw the rest out of your life. If you find yourself stumbling while getting rid of items, don’t worry. Take a break, get a snack or something to drink. You might even reminisce about your ex boyfriends bad qualities to help you push through the process. It’s never a good idea to dwell on your negative feelings, but touching on them is OK if it helps you get through the activity. If you can’t think of traits and qualities you didn’t like about him, think about your friends and their support. Invite them to help you with your purge. Friends can always help you through a bad breakup, especially when it comes to starting over fresh.
And speaking of friends, one of the best way to get over an ex is to take to the town with a few of your close girlfriends. It sounds cliché, but getting your mind off your breakup and back on your own life and what you enjoy is key to moving on and having fun again. Even if you’re still in love with your ex, it’s good to get out there and flirt a little, laugh a little and experience the world.
Sam Pagel has been writing about relationships (good and bad) since she could remember. She has other interests, but few that consume her time and thoughts like helping others work through difficult relationships. You can learn more about Sam and her relationship advice at I Want Him Back: Real. Advice. Now, a blog about romance, relationships and healing.